When it comes to planning for your maid of honor speech you might want to take it more seriously than the bachelorette party you had to plan for. The bachelorette party should have been easy to plan for and put on, compared to your speech. Since you are the Maid Of Honor, you have many more responsibilities to handle and plan for, one being the Maid of Honor Speech. If you are like me, I freaked out when I found out I was the Maid of Honor at my best friend’s wedding. I freaked out in excitement but also because I realized I had to give a speech in front of the hundreds of people coming to the wedding.
I honestly didn’t want to give the maid of honor speech at my friend’s wedding, but since it was my best friend I knew I had to suck up the nerves and get it done. It can be intimidating to stand in front of a crowd and pouring out your heart, the good times you had with your girlfriend and trying to keep the speech on topic, fun and enjoyable.
We have all been to that wedding where the maid of honor or even the best man gave a very boring and dry speech. There is nothing worse than listening to someone who hasn’t even prepared or know what they will say. I figured out that I wouldn’t be like that, and even though I am no professional speaker, I was able to give a great maid of honor speech at my friend’s wedding.
Here are a few tips that I followed that helped me process the speech and prepare for it:
- Step 1 - Relax & Write. Find quiet time to just think and write down ideas, memories and funny stories. This quiet time will help you get your thoughts in order.
- Step 2 – Wait 1 Day. I found that if I wait at least one day, my mind will think up other memories that I would have forgotten to include into my speech. Sometimes if you just go on with your day, you will get random memories or thoughts that you can include into your speech.
- Step 3 – Start Writing. Now that times has passed and you remember stories, memories and have some ideas, start writing your speech. The easiest way to write your speech is to start from the beginning of your friendship. Talk about how you know each other, why you are so close, include stories about your lives together and how you would talk about your future husbands. If you have a funny story, include it. These funny stories or memories that no one else knows will help keep your audience involved and will help spice up your maid of honor speech.
As soon as you have your speech written out, start going over it to make sure the speech flows. If you forgot to add details, now is the time to add and subtract ideas. This is what really makes maid of honor speeches, a success. If you really know what you are going to say, it will come off as that. If you procrastinate and have no idea what you will say, people will know and your speech will be boring and dry. So be sure to put a lot of time and effort into writing out your speech. On the wedding day, I had my speech all written out, but I didn’t use my note cards because I knew that if I had the speech in front of my I would just start reading it. If you read your speech, it will be less personal and boring.
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I just been asked to be my best friends maid of honor and afyer saying yes my head went right to the speech and I get very very nervous when speaking in front of any people.. Is there any tips you can give me to help me with this..
Just look at the bride and groom when making the speech and block everyone else in the room out. Pretend that its just you and them and ur jst having a casual conversation as usual.
Also, bring a little stress ball or sth to squeeze on or play with while your making the speech. A good helping of wine might calm the nerves as well.
I have been asked to be the maid of honor in my best friends wedding.. i just worry the most about being creative for the bacholorette party and bridal shower. Im not shy at all so i think the speech will be a piece of cake. I just really need ideas for the parties id like to keep thingfs fun but simple at the same time
.. any suggestions?
hi, i’ve been asked to be the maid of honour and i dont have a clue all round, first timmer yah! I’m really nervous to give a speach about my sister, I havnt seen her for about 6 years because she lives in australia and i live in NZ. So if anyone could give me advice on how to communicate and me being there for her the best way possible without breaking the bank etc please email me lol…….
I have just been asked to be my bestie’s maid of honor and as excited as I am I feel really bad because we live nearly 9 hours apart, any tips or suggestions to make it a success?
Omg I just found out that my best friend from childhood wants me to be her aid of honor and now she is a child of christ so now that makes it even harder for me cause I know him but i’m not we’re she is so please tell me how can I come up with some good things to say
My older sister asked me to be her Maid of Honor. I was really shocked because I’m the youngest at only 14, and I was expecting it to be one of her friends, or one of my other sisters. I’m really excited, but I’m not the most organized teenager, so I’m nervous about all the planning., and plus I’m absolutely terrible at talking! Is there an alternative to doing a speech, like maybe a song, or a slideshow? I’m good at writing, but I get tongue-tied when I have to talk in front of people. And what is the easiest way to stay organized?