Best Maid Of Honor Speeches

How do you write the best maid of honor speech?

It’s almost the big day and the stress of figuring out what to say in front of hundreds of people can be overwhelming. I know, because I have been there. I wanted to honor my best friend, someone whom I have grown up with and now its her day, her wedding. I remember the day as if it was yesterday, running around in a frantic just to get everything done. My mind wasn’t even on my speech or even what I was going to say. I knew I wanted to have the best maid of honor speech that I could come up with, but still didn’t have the time to write out my thoughts.

It was three days until the wedding day when I started stressing out about what I would say. I began asking some of my close friends what would be expected of me. Since this was the first time being the ‘Maid of Honor’ I really didn’t know what to expect. I remember breaking down one day and crying in my mom’s arms asking her for advice. She reminded me why I was the Maid of Honor and then started asking me questions. Without knowing what she was up to and why she was asking me all of these questions, I began to realize what I could say for my speech.

Sometimes we get overwhelmed when we are told we have to come up with a speech. A speech to me is a scary thing! Come on, do I really want to get up in front of all of those people and spill out my heart in front of them all! That is a scary thought to me. For some people, getting up and speaking to large crowds of people is like second nature, but not for me.

So what would make the best Maid of Honor speech?

  • The Best Maid of Honor Speeches are well prepared. I started preparing for my speech three days before the wedding. For some that is plenty of time, for others you might want to start writing down ideas and thoughts about your speech at least a week ahead. Having at least a week will give you enough time to practice and rehearse your speech. Sometimes its better not rehearse or practice because then the speech sounds like you are reading it and its not coming from the heart. Remember that the Best Maid Of Honor Speeches come from the heart, even if you never practice or rehearse before hand.
  • Some will say to include jokes, quotes or a poem that reminds you of the good times and funny times. Not all great Maid of Honor speeches have these qualities to them, but getting the crowd engaged and laughing or crying will do your best friend good. Remember the ‘good ole days’.
  • The best speeches are not too long, anything more than 8 minutes and you will start to lose the crowd. Include a short story or your favorite memory to get your audience involved. Short stories are often added to the best maid of honor speeches and are some times a great way of ending the speech.
  • The is important! Know what you want to say from the start to the end. If you just stand up and read from a note card you will lose the attention of the audience quickly. Most people don’t like listening to someone who is just reading from a card. The best Maid of Honor Speeches come from the heart and if you speak what is on your heart, you won’t need note cards. Not cards are good to put points you want to cover and to keep you on track, but not to just read from.
  • Being prepared is the most important thing that will separate the Best Maid of Honor Speeches from the rest. You can find many resources online that can help guide you to writing your speech and how to properly write the Best Maid of Honor Speech ever. Remember, you only have one shot at this speech, so take the time now and prepare for what you will say.

After I sat there crying in my mom’s arms, I got up and started jotting down my thoughts and ideas. This helped me remember memories and the great times we had together. I honestly believe that the best Maid of Honor speeches come from the heart and not from a note card. So take this as a maid of honor guide and prepare yourself for your best friends greatest day!

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Megan Jordan March 23, 2011 at 8:01 pm

I LOVE your site!! :) I have never been a maid of honor before, and this was SO helpful.


MOH March 25, 2011 at 9:54 pm


Good luck with being the Maid of Honor! It’s an exciting time and something to look forward to! Let me know if you have any questions.


Maranda April 5, 2011 at 10:45 pm

I wish I would have given this to my now ‘fired’ (three weeks from the wedding) Maid of “Honor” (read: disappointment). I’m lucky to have a wonderful sister who was happy to take her place (from the beginning!) and am moving forward with very few glitches. Brides, if you’re at all a by-the-rules person, be sure you are VERY clear with your Maid of Honor selection on your expectations of her role.


Danni May 11, 2011 at 6:18 pm

I am so excited! My best friend asked me to be her maid of honor! Only problem is that I am Dutch. Well that’s not really a problem, but it is knowing that my best friend is originally English (lived in the Netherlands for the first 18 years of her life, then moved back to England with her whole family) and I have to give a speach for 200 people, in a language I don’t normally speak. Even though my English isn’t that bad, i do feel really selfconscious when speaking English mostly because of my silly Dutch accent :( Could it be any more scary?

Would it be really terrible if I over rehearse my speech? Or maybe read from the card a little to much? Do you have any extra tips for me? I am allready freaking out just thinking of me standing there…


Kat June 12, 2011 at 6:10 pm

I am only 15 and my sister is getting married, she has asked me to be her maid of honor and i am truely blessed. She could have chosen absolutely anyone but i was the one she choose. I would like to write and preform to her the best speech i can becuase it is her special day and i have been there for her for all of my 15 years and i want to be the best i can for my big sister because she and her to be husband both mean so very much to me


Emily Hudson December 26, 2011 at 6:01 pm

I’m 16 and also just chosen as my sister’s maid of honor. I’ve still got a lot of time before her wedding but if you have any good advice on being a younger MOH please send it my way!


Ash June 22, 2011 at 4:16 pm

My best friend asked me to be her maid of honor last night, and I’m so happy I found this website right away! We’re at the VERY beginning of the process so it’s great to have these tips up front. Hopefully it will be a smooth process for the bride and groom. Thanks so much!


MOH June 22, 2011 at 10:53 pm

Ash – Exciting! Being the Maid of Honor is an exciting honor! Don’t let the stress of everything overwhelm you, just know that you have a big role to play from now until the end of the wedding day. Let us know if you have any questions!


Nash Garza August 14, 2011 at 3:39 am

This really helped out tons. Its my first time being a maid of honor and also the daughter of the bride and this gave me a huge idea on what in supposed to do and say. Thank you so much


Sam October 13, 2011 at 4:12 am

My friend told e last night that i’m gonna be her maid of honor. I was so happy at the same time a bit nervous because this gonna my very first time. Somehow this site really helped me a lot but I think I need more advice on what i’m gonna do. :) Thanks anyway! :)


Dylan December 22, 2011 at 2:33 pm

My brother’s fiancĂ© just asked me to be her maid of honor. o.o I’ve never been asked this before and I have no idea what to do. Not to mention the fact I’m extremely young. >_< I think this site outta be a good referral. :3


Tiffany January 9, 2012 at 5:38 am

I was asked to be the maid of honor in my best friend’s wedding on Christmas. I was really happy. I was originally suppose to be the maid of honor in my other best friend’s wedding but she cancelled it (they went and got married on the beach) I’m most nervous about my speech. I think I can handle the other stuff :)


Kaili Snicka Powell February 6, 2012 at 8:56 pm

My best froend asked me to be her maid of honor && im soooo honored, excited && scared LOL… I usually hate weddings but she's been my girl since we were young. Im hoping this site will really help me to make as few mistakes as possible :)


Anndarr Car Castillo December 9, 2014 at 6:46 am

hi I am maid of honor this month on 20th and its my best friend wedding we grow up together I need help plsss


Caitlynn February 25, 2015 at 8:13 am

Love the site! Thanks for all the advice, gives me a place to start. I am desperate for advice on how to balance being maid of honor for 2 weddings that take place a week apart from each other AND the bride a month later! I am so stressed out, and I haven’t even worked on my own wedding.

What is some advice for balancing everything!? I’m afraid schedule- and money-wise, I can’t afford it all. Also, how do you help give advice for two other weddings (decorations, flowers, ideas, etc) without revealing your own plans as well as refraining from copying?


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